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four words we can do without
Self-Acceptance Therapeutic Approach

Four words we can do without

Most of us have words that make us cringe, for one reason or another. It might be me a word that reminds you of something unpleasant, or that brings up a bad memory. For me, as a therapist, my cringe list consists of sneaky words that are a lot more harmful than they seem.  We live in a culture that is saturated in shame, where somehow it is believed that shame will motivate us to accomplish things.  The words on this list represent ways that shame sneaks its way into our narratives.

Have some compassion
Self-Acceptance Therapeutic Approach

Have Some Compassion

Let’s try something out: The next time a friend, colleague or family member makes a mistake or lets their imperfection show, let them know that you noticed and that it’s not ok. Make sure the coworker who missed a deadline knows that the boss is most likely going to fire him tomorrow. Did your son fail a test? Remind him a failed test means he’s stupid and worthless. When your best friend reaches for a second piece of cake, let her know just how fat, ugly and unlovable she is.

Can’t do it? Of course you can’t! We know that these are cruel lies that would hurt good people simply for being human. So, why do we find it so easy to say these things to ourselves?

Self-Acceptance Therapeutic Approach

Self-Care: Refill your fuel tank

I recently returned from a family vacation, and even though it was exhausting at times (remember, I said family vacation), it was a great reminder of how important self-care is to our overall wellbeing. Too often, we get caught up in the pressures of daily life and push ourselves until we’re running on empty. Just as you can only drive your car so far until it runs out of gas, your mind and body also need regular fill-ups for optimal performance.

Anxiety Self-Acceptance Therapeutic Approach

Validation is Powerful

Your feelings are valid.

Whether that made you breathe a sigh of relief or look around for the person with the “real” problems I must be talking to, your struggles are real, your experience matters and you have every right to feel the way you do. Yes, even you.  

We’ve all heard that the first step to overcoming an addiction is admitting that you have a problem. Well, when it comes to mental health, the first step to recovery is allowing yourself to have a problem. Mental health issues are still dripping with stigma and often kept as deep, dark secrets, locked away tight where no one else will ever find them. Sometimes it’s because we don’t want others to see us as sick, but sometimes it’s because we’re afraid they won’t.

How To Find a Therapist
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Finding Dr. Right

For those of us struggling with an issue (or several) that stands in the way of our happiness, the decision to seek help can be incredibly empowering. And incredibly daunting.

Wether you’re brand new to therapy or starting up again after a break, finding the right therapist is a major part of your journey to recovery. Just as your situation is unique, no two therapists are the same and finding the person who can provide the help you need makes all the difference.

Self Self-Acceptance Therapeutic Approach

The Power of Naming Shame

Guilt is a difficult emotion we’re all familiar with. But how often do we say “I feel guilty” when we really mean something else?

The definition of guilt is “a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined.” The remorse and regret you feel after doing something that hurts someone is productive; it reminds you to be kind, ask for forgiveness and move on. But when we say “I felt guilty after eating all of those cookies” or “I felt guilty saying no, but I don’t have time to help her move” what crimes are we committing? I don’t know about you, but I’ve never heard of anyone being arrested for eating treats or saying no to a favour.

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Reframing Perfectionism

Despite having lots to say the idea of blogging is overwhelming – will I say the right thing? Will it sound professional?  Is my grammar correct? Will people think I’m worthwhile? When it comes to the written word I have a tendency to strive for perfection.  Blogging will challenge this.   I need to stop waiting for all of my ducks to be lined up  – now is the time.

I don’t know about you, but I hear this type of thinking a lot.  On an almost daily basis someone says to me “when X will happen then I can do Y.”